You've followed all the advice, Googled till your eyes crossed, tried every Pinterest-inspired "hack" you can find,
but still your kids...
have totally lost their"listening ears"
Imagine being able to improve your child's behaviour without losing your ever-loving mind
oh, and did I mention it will take just 10 minutes a day?
You feel like you need to "set better boundaries", be more "consistent," and engage your child in more "structured learning activities,"
You feel like you're just barely keeping up with the latest demand for a snack, you're tired, and are running on adrenaline and coffee trying to raise well behaved (and mostly lovable) tiny humans.
So when your little one takes forever to get things done, loses their cool, or morphs into full on Darth Toddler, it can seem impossible to know what to do to manage and correct their behaviour
Here's the surprising fact you are probably missing: Children do well if they can, and if they aren't it's because they don't have the skills to.
If all the interventions in the world aren't improving your child's behaviour- it's for one simple reason.
Behaviour management and good parenting isn't enough.
What your child needs is to master one or more of the eight core mental skills (a.k.a: executive functioning skills) required to think, feel, and act sensibly.
The challenge is that your child wasn't born with these skills.
I created the ParentAbility to give your family a research-based and proven system to teach, practice, and reap the benefits of developing these skills in your child.
ParentAbility is your ticket to developing the behaviour needed to restore peace to your family life now, and to equip your child with a solid foundation they will lean on to thrive for the rest of their life.
This self-study membership program will bring you up to speed on exactly what executive functioning skills are, and provide simple and practical games, activities, and interaction prompts that eliminate the guess work on developing them in your child.
Imagine being able to correct your child's behaviour without any massive meltdowns
Picture this with me:
You're rushing to get out the door with your 1 and 4 year olds when it hits you: your 4 year old has put on his socks and shoes, just as you asked. His shoes even match! As you rush around throwing last minute things in the bag you ask him to help his sister with her shoes, and when you come back- they're on! The right feet!
As he helps his sister stand up she accidentally pushes him to the ground and you see a hand fly out. You brace for the scream- but it never comes:
"UGH, Sissy, please be careful, I don't like it when you push me!"
Is this for real? Are you DREAMING?
Pulling up to play group you remind your son that there will be children who look his age, but are much younger than him and to be kind. As you walk inside it's pure pandemonium, and you quickly retreat to your group of friends around the coffee maker. Every time a child screams you tense up and wait to hear the familiar screams of "MOM!!", but every single time it's someone else's child.
You graciously accept compliments from the other parents about how kind, sweet, and what a great leader your child is. They ask you what your secret is- just a few months ago he was barrelling over other children, hitting when he wanted a toy, and melting down when it was time to leave.
When it comes time to leave, you give a five minute warning and ask your child to locate his shoes. You're floored to see him indicate they're together, and to the side of the gym.
As you locate your daughter and begin to gather her effects you notice your son consoling his friend who is wailing uncontrollably: his favourite toy has been broken.
"Next time" you hear him say "leave precious things at home. It's okay- calm down- you have lots of trucks."
Upon returning home your son requests a peanut butter sandwich, but you're out of his preferred bread.
"That's okay, maybe I'll just have some soup then." he replies.
You finally feel like you can breathe- the time and effort you spend getting through a day is greatly reduced, your son is happier and more confident in his abilities, and all it took was 10 to 30 minutes of play a day! You can't wait to continue this process, and see him soar as he enters school and beyond.
Did you read that and think, "there is no way that is possible for my child?"
If so, you're in the right place. Once you join the ParentAbility you'll get everything you need to understand and improve your child's lagging executive skills. The online portal includes video lessons, printable PDF play plans, a skills inventory, and supply lists to take you step by step through the process of building up those mental skills- and make it fun!
Here's what we're covering in the program:
Prices are charged in Canadian dollars. Current approximate exchange .70 USD= 1 CAD
When children are faced with demands and challenges- they do well if they can. If they aren't- it's because they're lacking the skills to succeed. As parents it's our duty to equip them with the tools their minds desperately need to be competent, confident, and well-behaved.
Curious to see what's inside?
Take a sneak peak inside the members-only portal and private Inner Circle Facebook group.
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Frequently Asked Questions
This is a self-paced self-study program: there's no ahead or behind. How you use the resources and when are entirely up to you. Generally with typical children I don't expect to see real durable change before approximately the 3-month mark, assuming you implement daily. Members have seen improvements on a shorter timeline, but I consider those exceptional results.
Show up, do the work, put in the time with your kids- and you WILL see a reduction in the behaviours that drive you crazy.
Can I guarantee this? No. Much of it depends on the amount and consistency of work you put in. But the tools, materials, and support you need are all there for you to succeed- you just need to apply them.
As soon as reserve your spot in the program you'll be automatically logged in to the members-only web portal. There you'll view a welcome video with further directions, and links to access the members dashboard and to join the Inner Circle Facebook group.
You'll also receive 3 emails: your receipt, your auto-generated portal password, and a welcome email with information to help you take full advantage of your membership.
This program is aimed at children 2 to 5 years old. The concepts are universal however- and although the outcome of strong executive skills change as a child ages, the foundational concepts do not. We have many parents who are using these concepts with their older children with great success.
It depends on the payment schedule you choose. Monthly members will have access for as long as they remain up to date on their payments, and will be removed from the portal and the Inner Circle Facebook group once they cancel. Yearly members will have access for 365 days from the date of payment unless they renew.
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Flattering Things People Have Said About Me...
Getting advice from Allana is like getting advice from your seasoned mom friend who just happens to have the exact same parenting style as you, and is also knowledgeable in child development. I am so thankful I was referred to Allana.
ParentAbility is a great starting point for parents dipping their toes into child development. I now know there are ways I can address issues as/if they arise in the future - it’s nice to have that Ace up my sleeve! I like the bitsize-‘ness’ of the program and having a small group of dedicated people, along with Allana’s insight, has been invaluable.
I’m a single Mom without much time. Since beginning ParentAbility I am much more calm and am able to work with my son. I don’t get frustrated anymore. I am much more patient, and it’s reduced the amount of time I spend getting him to do anything. My favourite part is the picture boards. I use them every day and when he gets side tracked we refer back to them and we end up back on track. I would absolutely recommend this program- all kiddos have their weaknesses and these tools do help!
I'm already starting to see improvement in behavior in my 3-year-old. Even more important, possibly, is the change I've seen in myself. I find I'm more patient and less prone to immediately react when issues arise. Because I have more insight in my son's developing brain skills, I find I'm able to approach a challenging situation (e.g. a tantrum) in a more enlightened way. To be honest, coughing up the investment for this course was difficult. I had never paid this much for any online course before and it was definitely a leap of faith. I didn't really know what to expect, other than knowing that the concepts your discussed in your webinar just made sense. I would absolutely recommend ParentAbility. The resources are fantastic and so easy to digest. It's wonderful for busy families!